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May. 4th, 2017 11:20 amThis morning, I checked my phone for any new videos (Which has become some kind of routine for me by now, admittedly.) and found one by Hello Fears on shopping [Clickedy Click.]... One of the points she made in this video was to "Collect experiences, not shoes". Now, I don't collect shoes, but I do get the point she has made with this video. In fact, the entire video was so interesting to watch... And resonated with me so much.
I remember some of the happiest moments in my life, and whilst I did spend money on some of them (Like tickets for travelling a certain distance, entrance tickets for concerts, and so on.), many were for free rather than huge amounts money-wise. Like, really amazing concerts. The entrance was about 30 € at the maximum, I think (Maybe more for the festival I attended.), but the shows I got to see, the impact the concerts had on me personally were priceless. Same counts for trips by coach or train or even plane... Of course, they did cost some money, but I didn't do it for the tickets; I rather travelled for the experiences on the other side of the destination. :) This even counts for very short trips... Other experiences that have stayed with me and gave me happiness, like rescuing a motherless kitten and helping it grow into one of the cheekiest cats I have ever seen :P, were indeed for free. Okay, I did spend money on baby cat milk powder and such, but other than that... It meant the world to me :). Or concerts I myself have played. Like the one for Japan after the disastrous earthquake in 2011... This is a priceless experience! Or learning new things, like knitting or sewing, or a new language.... It is far more valuable than owning all the things in the world.
Then again, she spoke about giving back to others, e. g. by teaching them something you can do and having a positive impact on others. I know I am fairly bad at explaining altogether... But sometimes I wish I could help others learn something new. For example, I have an e-mail pal right now from Egypt, who happens to learn German, and I am trying my best to help him learn it. It is not like my German is the best; it sure as hell is not, but it is a language that I know naturally... Which also means having internalised stuff like grammar rules without ever having been exposed to proper explanations as to how said grammar works. I also can play some instruments, but I often fear my students might be a lot further with playing than I actually am, so I am scared about this... Like, what if I accept a student and then he / she bursts into music so fine and delicate that I am just not able to teach him / her anything worth? The same applies for all things esoteric... For example, astrology or cartomancy. What if my students happen to be much better than I am? I know I should welcome learning myself, of course, but if they are paying to be taught something new, it is a personal struggle for me to just be better than them.
Personal relationships... I think she is right that such can make you happier & more fulfilled, too. I just wish I could see it more clearly sometimes, that not everybody hates me and such. And achievements -- I think this is a good advice and somewhat linked to the first point again (Collecting experiences!!). I mean, some experiences and goals are tied to each other...! I often have the feeling I have a hard time carrying through with some things I start. I start and start and start, but there is no visible improvement afterwards, and I feel like a complete loser and a lazy bum afterwards. I know one shouldn't bother about finishing stuff, but people tend to think the same about me (That I am lazy and a loser.), I have the impression. Like, "You should finish this." or "You have started it, now you need to finish it, too.", etc. And they tend to see in me that I have no strength to carry through with anything, etc. It just upsets me. I know I should not blame anybody for this, as they probably all don't mean it like this, but it just puts more pressure on me and makes me feel more antisocial... But then again, I am drifting away from the main topic here. :\ I cannot even keep talking about positive things.
Ah well, either way, it was an inspiring video. :)
I remember some of the happiest moments in my life, and whilst I did spend money on some of them (Like tickets for travelling a certain distance, entrance tickets for concerts, and so on.), many were for free rather than huge amounts money-wise. Like, really amazing concerts. The entrance was about 30 € at the maximum, I think (Maybe more for the festival I attended.), but the shows I got to see, the impact the concerts had on me personally were priceless. Same counts for trips by coach or train or even plane... Of course, they did cost some money, but I didn't do it for the tickets; I rather travelled for the experiences on the other side of the destination. :) This even counts for very short trips... Other experiences that have stayed with me and gave me happiness, like rescuing a motherless kitten and helping it grow into one of the cheekiest cats I have ever seen :P, were indeed for free. Okay, I did spend money on baby cat milk powder and such, but other than that... It meant the world to me :). Or concerts I myself have played. Like the one for Japan after the disastrous earthquake in 2011... This is a priceless experience! Or learning new things, like knitting or sewing, or a new language.... It is far more valuable than owning all the things in the world.
Then again, she spoke about giving back to others, e. g. by teaching them something you can do and having a positive impact on others. I know I am fairly bad at explaining altogether... But sometimes I wish I could help others learn something new. For example, I have an e-mail pal right now from Egypt, who happens to learn German, and I am trying my best to help him learn it. It is not like my German is the best; it sure as hell is not, but it is a language that I know naturally... Which also means having internalised stuff like grammar rules without ever having been exposed to proper explanations as to how said grammar works. I also can play some instruments, but I often fear my students might be a lot further with playing than I actually am, so I am scared about this... Like, what if I accept a student and then he / she bursts into music so fine and delicate that I am just not able to teach him / her anything worth? The same applies for all things esoteric... For example, astrology or cartomancy. What if my students happen to be much better than I am? I know I should welcome learning myself, of course, but if they are paying to be taught something new, it is a personal struggle for me to just be better than them.
Personal relationships... I think she is right that such can make you happier & more fulfilled, too. I just wish I could see it more clearly sometimes, that not everybody hates me and such. And achievements -- I think this is a good advice and somewhat linked to the first point again (Collecting experiences!!). I mean, some experiences and goals are tied to each other...! I often have the feeling I have a hard time carrying through with some things I start. I start and start and start, but there is no visible improvement afterwards, and I feel like a complete loser and a lazy bum afterwards. I know one shouldn't bother about finishing stuff, but people tend to think the same about me (That I am lazy and a loser.), I have the impression. Like, "You should finish this." or "You have started it, now you need to finish it, too.", etc. And they tend to see in me that I have no strength to carry through with anything, etc. It just upsets me. I know I should not blame anybody for this, as they probably all don't mean it like this, but it just puts more pressure on me and makes me feel more antisocial... But then again, I am drifting away from the main topic here. :\ I cannot even keep talking about positive things.
Ah well, either way, it was an inspiring video. :)
